WHERE HAVE ALL THE GOOD MEN GONE, A LOT OF YOUNG WOMEN WANT TO KNOW !!!
That is one hell of good question. I meet young women all the time that know that Mom and I have been married going on 39 years and they long to find a life’s partner. In fact, I just met a very nice and very attractive young woman while purchasing supplies for one of our jobs who is single and admits she can not find “good husband” type guys. It was funny because Mom and I, while stopped in traffic for a wreck, started discussing this very issue just an hour before. I later told this young lady what I had told Mom and she admitted that she felt I was right.
She, the young lady, and I were discussing the reason for the divorce rate when I asked, “Do you know why the rate is so high or why there are no long term marriages as in the past?” She looked at me with some suspicion and after a moment she said, please tell me. I told her, and I quote, “It is the men’s fault because they are so immature.” Mom even agreed with me during our trip. I have told two ladies my ideas on this subject and both have agreed. Hell, that is 100 % agreement. Unheard of in this day and time. I will explain it here in “COMMON SENSE” terms to see if the percentage will hold up. You see, I believe that all we have is a bunch of wussies from which these ladies have to make their choice. The young men have not been taught how to treat a lady and are at best just immature boys; while, these young ladies are longing for the company of a real man. They are looking for a real warrior, a real provider and a real lover who can be a real spiritual father to their children. A real man is all of the above in differing degrees at different times. The young men out there today are neither a warrior, a provider, nor sexually mature; and as to being a spiritual father, they are clueless. We discussed the subject and she admitted to me that the only guy she even considered husband material was 10 years her senior. It was strange when she brought that point forward because you see, I am 11 years senior in relation to Mom. Mom walked up about that time and we all continued the discussion all the way out the door and while loading the truck. I explained to the young lady that last week in south S.A., at a Valero station, I remarked to the lady behind the counter as I paid for our “hot dog dinner” on the tailgate of the truck “Do not tell me I do not know how to treat a lady,” “Two chili dogs and a Dr. Pepper Icee.” “Last of the big spenders”.
As we were saying our “good byes” after loading the supplies, I said to the young lady, this is another reason for our longevity as I opened the truck door to assist Mom’s entry. The young lady was astounded that I did so. She said she had only had one guy do that in all her dates. Folks, this is a sign of respect. I asked her, “Do you know how to make it happen?” and she said no. So I told her to let him get in the car and to just stand there waiting. Believe me he will get the message. But, I warned her to do this when he comes to pick you up and while still in front of your house. If he refuses, simply go back in the house and write him off as “a lost cause”. It only makes “COMMON SENSE” to do so.
Some time ago, Mom and I were heading to my high school reunion. We had one stop to make; and as I was assisting her into the truck there were three ladies in the car next to us and the driver said to Mom, “He’s a keeper, honey.” You see people do notice. I was taught at an early age to respect women. My Mom told me when I started to date, “She might not be that special one; but if you cared enough to ask her out, then for that one night you should treat her as though she is the only lady in your life”. I have a tear in my eye as I can still hear her saying that today as if it were yesterday.
You know, it really does make “COMMON SENSE”. And if you young men will show respect for these beautiful creatures God has placed on this earth and show them you are a “real man”, “they will beat a path to your door”. Show them you can be the man God knows you can be. Remember, a warrior, a provider, a lover and a spiritual father figure, and she will say, “What a man!!”